The mysteries of SL

How hard can it be? Trying to find a nice place to party in SL with good music and most important; NOT a strip club or sex oriented club! Sure some of them are nice with nice people but the only way to have a conversation and meet new people in those clubs is by being naked or talking about being naked. So I have been surfing around the net, the SL search, SL itself and although I am usally good at finding things, I havent found a decent club yet. There must be some secret sect out there to keep this all so quiet. A club with first class DJ's, bartenders, beautiful dancefloor filled with party-people and events to keep them all going.